So far you have gotten two steps. Step one was to take care of yourself. You can not expect to take care of a home if you do not take care of yourself first. This can include exercising or meditating whatever it is that you do make sure you do it first!. Step 2 was to set the tone. As women we can create an environment of tension or and environment of harmony. Setting the tone and what the husband feels when he is leaving the house in the morning all begins with setting the tone. Lets make sure we set the right tone from the very beginning.
Step Three: Talk about dinner
Here you are indirectly telling him when you get home baby you will be coming home to a hot meal… maybe even his favorite meal. We all know the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So, ask him what he would like for dinner? When you do this, you are including him in simple house hold decisions and that his opinion matters. This strokes his ego. You are giving him something to look forward to when he gets home, in addition, you subconsciously remind him that he has a family to come home to where his opinions matter, a home where he is the king of the castle. What man would not look forward to coming home to that. A man wants to come home to a place he calls his sanctuary, a place of solace. Your job as a wife is to create it!
This step has a double whammy one for him which is the home cooked meal and one for you. This step works on your heart as well as his.
If it is after an argument how can he remain angry once you have filled his belly with food that was cooked with love. He is now open for discussion on what occurred the night before.
It works on you, because as you cook your husband’s meal it literally begins to melt away anger and frustration you may be feeling towards him. When I cook for my husband and children I do it with love, I use it as a time to meditate and remember that I am so thankful for my family. By the time, I am done cooking I am not as angry if it is after an argument and am willing to hear what he has to say. Not being as angry also opens the road to possible forgiveness. God cannot work with us if we are not willing to forgive others. With both you and him cooled down a little, both parties are now ready to have adult conversation.
If it is just a normal day, when I am done I find that I Iove my family just a little bit more than I did before.
Are these steps helping? I hope by now you have been applying some of these step to your personal life. I have two more amazing steps left that will help you create a home of love and peace. Stay tuned for steps four and five!