Are you Jealous? A character flaw you need to overcome to get closer to meeting your spouse!


I pray that you had a wonderful past week and that this week is going well for you.  I also pray that those who were in the path of hurricane Irma made it through safely.

Today I will continue with the steps that I had to take in order for God to prepare me for my husband.  For a recap, you learned you need to love yourself which means loving God and others in order to attract your husband.  You also learned that you have to stop having sex and save yourself for your spouse.  When you have sex with others you open the door way that allows Satan to come and mess with your life. I pray you have started your journey following those steps and that God continue to give you the grace and courage to remain in him.

I want to discuss how we react when we hear that someone we know is engaged or has bought their house or anything that you have been praying that God bless you with.  Are you envious? Do you find yourself disappointed because you wish it were you?  Does the feeling of sadness enter your heart thinking “Why them God? It is not fair.”  If you are honest with yourself and you answered yes do not be alarmed or ashamed. These are all natural feelings that the flesh which is our sinful nature will have.  However, we must work on these feeling in order for God to send your husband.

You have to learn to be happy for others and rejoice with them knowing that God in his perfect time will do the same for you.  You are not to be envious or covet anything that your friends have even if it is something you want with all your heart.

“Let us not become conceited or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.” (Galatians 5:26 NLT).

For me, I would get so disappointed when I heard someone was engaged.  I would compare myself with them and wonder why not me?  I would also be envious if someone had a better body then me or in better shape.  Then I realized that if I want God to bless me, I cannot react the same way every time.  I must change my own behavior.  The next time I got news that a family member was getting married I decided to call them and ask them if they needed any help for the wedding.  The feelings of jealously did not immediately go away it took time. I did the same when I heard someone was pregnant and when I heard someone purchased their home I immediately bought them a house warming gift.   I also began to work out and watch what I ate which was showing love to myself.  In time, I was able to overcome the negative emotions because I responded with love.  When I responded with love, I noticed that I truly was happy for them and that I knew God would do the same for me once he felt I was ready to meet my husband.  You have to be willing to humble yourself and look beyond your own selfish desires. When you do this, you begin a new transformation in your life and a shift occurs.  You are now a step closer to meeting your amazing God fearing husband.

“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and others sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of God”. (Galatians 5:19-21 NLT)

If you notice jealously, envy is mentioned twice just in this scripture alone.  This is something that must be put in check.   If you do not put this emotion in check you will continue to live a life of comparison and always wondering “why not me?”  It all falls back to love. The action of showing love towards the very thing or person helps you overcome and have victory.  Remember in due season you will get what God has promised which is your husband.

“And this is the plan: At the right time, he will bring everything together under the authority of Christ-everything in heaven and on earth.” (Ephesians 1:10 NLT)

“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” (Genesis 2:18 NLT)

This week lets work on getting rid of envy thoughts and feeling.  Turn those emotions by showing love to the very thing that you desire or person that you envy. In addition, being envious is indirectly telling God you do not have faith that he will do the same for you.  If you do not have faith in God that he will do the same for you then you must ask yourself do you truly love God?

“Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” (1 John 4:18 NLT)

Have a blessed day!

Magdalina Sylvain



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