First and foremost there are no guarantees in life when it comes to dating. That is the lie that many dating guru’s tell women who are desperate and hurting looking for a way to make some income.
This is surly not of God. I do not think it is fair for anyone to exploit others while they are hurting or genuinely looking to meet a nice guy or Mr Right.
I can assure you that all I share is from the heart and pray it makes sense to you.
As far as guaranteeing a second date you simply cannot! But, I can share with you some do’s and do nots as a guideline to help you on a first date.
First thing is FIRST! DO NOT TELL HIM YOU ARE LOOKING TO GET MARRIED this will chase him away!
Trust me he will figure that out later once he gets a chance to know you. It is to much pressure to put on a man on the first date!
Do not tell him YOU ARE WAITING FOR MARRIAGE TO HAVE SEX!
This information will do one of two things, scare him away or give him a challenge to get in your pant WITHOUT A RING..
Do not talk in details about your past hurts or your ex-relationships. If he inquires, simply say you were on different paths and decided to part ways mutually.
If there was drama or your ex hurt you really bad you may disclose this when you guys realize the relationship is going somewhere.
Why indulge in the past when you do not even know there will even be a second date.
Talk about good attributes about yourself and inquire about his. Not in a boastful way but in a humble way.
I am not talking about having good credit, owning your own car and house. All these may be great things that you have accomplished but they are all material things.
Find out if he is Christian and what he believes in. You may realize you do not even want a second date depending on what he says.
Share your passions and desires. Discuss what you do for charity and how you love spending time with your family.
This may sound corny but you are showing him your character.
The conversation on the first date should be light, more like an introduction of who you are.
If he brings up children and you do not have any but you would like to have some, simply respond telling him yes I would love kids in the future. That is that.
You can mention how many but please DO NOT SHOW DESPERATION ON HOW BAD YOU WANT CHILDREN AND PLEASE DO NOT SLIP AND SAY WHEN YOU GET MARRIED!
He will figure this out later.
The goal on the first date is to be you but, not so open that you are disclosing to much all at once. You want to be aloof.
Do not pretend to be someone else and most importantly be honest.
In my next post I will give you a prayer you can say when you meet a guy which will allow God to remove him if he is not the one.
I pray this helped. Remember the goal is Gods will be done. So if you allow God to work in you and through you he is the one that will put the desire in the mans heart for another date.
Honestly, if he is the one God has chosen, you really cannot mess up. This is why I say be yourself above all else! And let his will be done.
These are just guidelines to help you get through the first date.
No schemes no trickery, only God and his will can ocherstrate a second date.
Inbox me if you have questions!
God bless you