I wish my husband was a romantic man. For years, I begged Dudley to do things spontaneously for me.
Buy me flowers, surprise me with a date to my favorite restaurant anything that would hint a bit of romance but, I get nothing!
No flowers, no surprise date or presents. Nothing!
I recall one time he had the nerves to come home with food for himself and not even think to ask me if he should bring some home for me.
To this day, I feel that he could care less to show me a little romance despite of the many requests.
Does this mean he does not love me?
How could he love me if he is not willing to do what would make me happy after nine years?
I do not think that what I am asking for is to much.
I have to admit I was feeling discouraged these past few weeks. Sometimes I want to be shown love. I cook, clean and take care of our children willingly because I love him and the girls.
Ladies our home got pretty intense.
So, I went into my prayer closet and began to pray.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” (Philippians 4:6 NLT)
This would be the very first time that I actually prayed about this.
I never thought it was important to pray about.
But, when I realized how the lack of romance affected me to the point to where our relationship was getting tense I had to get on my knees.
I prayed for weeks and I got no answer. I was praying for God to make my husband more romantic so I could be happy.
Every day I woke up thinking this is the day that I am going to get flowers or my favorite candy bar.
I got NOTHING!
I WAS GETTING MORE AND MORE ANGRY BELIEVING THAT GOD WAS IGNORING MY PRAYER
Then one day, As I was going for my morning walk my sprit began to talk to me.
I began to have flashbacks of all the things Dudley had done and continues to do for me every single day to show me that he loves me.
The most recent one was when he packed up the girls, Laila and Liya one Saturday morning and took the railroad and train with us so that I would be confident to take it on my own that next Monday for work.
That’s the picture of us on the train above. If thats not love and romantic I do not know what is.
He helps me clean up around the house. He also helps me with the kids and If I mention that I am tired he lets me sleep in.
Not to mention the fact that he wakes up in the morning sometimes and gets me coffee and attempts to make me breakfast once in a while.
He comes home every single night
And the biggest way he shows me he loves me is when he hands over the paycheck!
The point is, all though he does not show me that he loves me the way I would like him to he shows me in so many different ways.
I cried by the end of all the flashbacks that God ran through my head.
He is romantic with me in his way. I’m gonna call it, “Dudley’s romance” and I would not trade it in for the world.
I am so grateful that God answered my prayer by not changing Dudley but by showing me how “Dudley’s romance” is perfect just the way it is.
Look at your relationship and really read between the lines.
Your husband may not be showing you he loves you or be romantic the way you want but he may be showing you in his own way?
Do not make the same mistake and let years go by not recognizing his love for you.